Pain in the student ministry leader

Galatians 4:19 "My dear children, for whom I am again in the pains of childbirth until Christ is formed in you..."

This week I am wondering what needs to change in my student ministry so this is true of me. What kind of pain in a leader leads to Christ being formed in a student? Do I view the students in my student ministry as a attendees or children? Pain isn't a one time experience in seeing Christ formed in a student. Paul was "again" experiencing pain. I can see why so many student ministry leaders only care about programming...because when it fails...the pain is only skin deep.